Christian Dating Tips – How to Break up a Relationship
Here are some Christian dating tips to help you if you've reached a point in your relationship where your boyfriend/girlfriend’s values interfere with your Christian beliefs.
And you are considering breaking up with your boyfriend/girlfriend...
First Things First...
Here are some Christian dating tips you should consider before you go ahead and break your relationship.
You must bear in mind that one single incident in which your partner disappoints you or shows an unpleasant trait doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is doomed. - Psalms 130:3.
What if you are convinced that the person you are dating now will not make a good marriage partner?
Do not ignore your feelings because it would be better to end the relationship especially if your answer to the first four questions is yes! Or at least until he corrects his/her behavior.
Note the what the Bible says in Proverbs 22:3 “ A prudent person foresees the danger ahead and takes precautions; the simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences “(NLT).
After all, you are going to spend the rest of your life with the person will marry. It is better to live with short-term pain now than with lifelong regret later.
So How Should You go about Breaking Up?
Consider these Christian dating tips aimed at guiding you through the process of breaking up your relationship:
• Choose a proper environment/setting for the discussion. Where is the appropriate setting? Matthew 7:21 gives us a clue. You don’t want to be embarrassed in front of others, do you?
• Don’t break up a relationship over the phone or using a text message or e-mail, answering machine. Remember, this is a serious matter.
• Speak the truth as you express your view. Be tactical and firm in your approach – Ephesians 4:25
• State why you feel the relationship won’t work for you. Always remember to focus on you and not the other person e.g “ I feel this relationship should end because…”
• Don’t yield to the other person’s opinion, after all you didn’t decide to end the relationship for flimsy reasons. So watch out for manipulative suggestions. Let your “no” mean “no” – James 5:12
Ok, You’ve Broken Up Your Relationship, What Next?
You may find yourself feeling depressed after the break up. That’s normal, so don’t be hard on yourself. You may also discover that some friends may try to talk you into giving the other person another chance.
At this point, you have to stand your ground because you live with your decisions – not that of your well-meaning friends.In time, the pain that you feel will pass.
What Do You Do While The Pain Still Lurks at a Corner of Your Heart?
• Tell someone you trust (e.g. your parents or other mature adults) how you feel – Proverbs 15:22
• Pray to God about your situation – Psalms 55:22
• Engage your mind in productive activities – 1 Corinthians 15:58
• Don’t give to the tendency to keep to yourself. Associate with people –Proverbs 18:1
• Endeavour to stay positive about life and relationships - Philippians 4:8
With time, you will find a friend who values you and by then you’ll be in a better position to appreciate him/her. Keep the above Christian dating tips handy so that you can approach breaking a relationship or advise others intending to do so in a godly manner.