Christian Dating Tips: Is this Person Right for Me?
There are lots of Christian dating tips that deal with how to identify the right potential marriage mate. In this article, we will look at solid Biblical tips that will help you know the right person to consider for marriage.
You will agree with me that when you were younger and had a crush on somebody, you tended to be more interested in the physical looks of that person.
However, as you mature, you discover that there is more to people than physical attraction. You start to consider issues like how spiritual your friend’s are, whether they are trustworthy and goal oriented.
If you are well past teenage age and have started dating for years, you must have at some point asked the question ‘is this person right for me?’. But…
First, you have to make sure you know yourself.
• Who are you?
• What are your strengths and weaknesses?
• What type of spiritual and emotional needs do you have?
Who Are You & What Are You Strengths & Weaknesses?
Though it isn’t easy to know yourself. However, with time, you’ll discover some important things about yourself. This self discovery process is important because the more you understand yourself, the more prepared you will be when you find your date.
The self discovery will make you more likely to date someone who will build up your strong points rather than a person that will bring you down and make you feel worthless or inferior.
How do you handle people that approach you? You must have observed people stare at you if you are woman. Some guys must have even walked up to you and popped the question ‘can I get to know you better?’
If you are a young man, you must have developed some interest in some young woman. You may have a girl already. How can you tell if your mate is the right one for you to marry?
Now, let’s assume you want to buy a pair of shoes as a gift. You go to the stores, pick up a pair that catches your eye, and try it on, only to discover that the shoes are too tight.
What do you do next? Do you look for a different pair of shoes or do you buy the shoes anyway?
Obviously, it will be wise for you to look for a different pair of shoes, because it would be unwise and unreasonable to walk around in a pair of shoes that didn’t fit.
This also applies to choosing a marriage partner. It is very important to date someone who you are comfortable with – a person who will be your suitable companion and who will cleave together with you as one. - Genesis 2:18; Mathew 19:4-6.
Use These Tips To Evaluate Your Partner
• You should endeavor to spiritual discern if the person is of the Lord or of the devil but masquerading as a true Christian.
• Note the person’s reactions when you disagree. Does he/she resort to fits of anger or abusive speech – Colossians 3:8
• Note whether he/she shows a willingness to make peace.
• Make sure he/she is well spoken of – Acts 16 :1-2
l believe that if you seriously consider and apply the above Christian dating tips, you will find out whether the person you are dating is a godly person and the right person for you.